I don't like school
01. 10. 2025
"I don’t like school" what does your child really mean?
One morning, while putting on their shoes, your child tells you: "I don’t like school…". Tough to hear. Is it just a wish to stay home, or something deeper? This phrase always reflects an emotion and sometimes, it says much more than it seems.
Why kids might say this:
Feeling lonely on the playground Some children struggle to find their place. When others already have their groups of friends, they feel excluded, making school feel isolating.
Challenging relationship with the teacher If a child doesn’t feel understood or supported by their teacher, school can feel cold and strict.
Fear of failure Learning can feel like pressure. Reading, writing, counting… If a child feels they’re not keeping up, confidence can quickly drop.
Disagreements and bullying Arguments are normal, but sometimes teasing goes too far. Repeated mockery, exclusion, or insults is bullying. Each morning can become a struggle. For pre-teens, bullying can even continue online through cyberbullying insults, rumors, or teasing via social media or messages. This “invisible” form of bullying is hard to handle because it invades personal space.
Separation anxiety For younger kids, leaving mom or dad can feel heartbreaking.
Parental influence Children repeat what they hear. If they often hear phrases like "I never liked school," they may internalize the idea that school is unpleasant.
How parents can respond:
Listen without minimizing a simple "I don’t like it" can hide a call for help. Ask the right questions "Is something scaring you?" or *"Is someone bothering you at school or online?" Celebrating achievements, even small victories boost confidence. Share positive stories and talk about your own school experiences, even if you didn’t like everything. Act quickly in case of bullying, whether at school or online. Your child should never face it alone. Inform the teacher, keep evidence (messages, screenshots), and seek help if needed.
Book can help start the conversation:
The Color Monster Goes to School – The Color of Emotions
In summary:
When a child says "I don’t like school”, it’s never just a passing comment. It might hide loneliness, fear, lack of confidence, or even bullying sometimes online. The key is to listen, talk, and support your child with kindness so they can feel safe, confident, and happy at school again.